Plenty of people don’t like the baby stage. There’s all kinds of things not to like. The sleep deprivation that causes you to at times be a barely functioning human, hardly even capable of holding an intelligent conversation, or faking one. Then there’s the challenge of even getting out of the house, or showering uninterrupted (or even alone) or trying to comfort them when they just seem inconsolable. Baby’s needs can seem never-ending and they can’t talk to you, so you’re left to struggle on the best you can. Well they communicate just fine, but crying isn’t always the most definitive of mechanisms.
But I love the baby stage. Because it’s simple. It might be hard and even gruelling at times, particularly as far as sleep goes. But you don’t have to worry about discipline or boundaries or an opportunity for teaching or anything else that becomes increasingly necessary as they start to become little people. And let’s face it, once you have a toddler running around the place, the benefit of a baby that doesn’t move at all start to become very obvious.
I’m quite happy to hang on to my babies for as long as possible (including my toddler-sized baby). It’s only a matter of time before she starts pre-school. Although I can see she’s pretty close to being ready, the lure of time to myself is well overshadowed by the unbridled panic of seeing my baby take those first steps away from me and on her own. The fact that there will be times when she will want me to comfort a hurt (physical or emotional) and I won’t be there makes me feel ill. Very ill.
I won’t be rushing the jellybean through their baby stage either. I’m not in a hurry to return to things in my pre-baby life. Not that I didn’t love all of those things or that I don’t occasionally miss a bit of freedom here or there. But I like that my life has changed. That it’s different. That there’s something beyond myself in it. Which is probably why I’m the person who would be quite happy to have lots of babies. And while husband has back-pedalled to 3, I’m sticking with 5. I’m sure this won’t cause any conflict in the future.
Feel free to remind me of this when I’m at the end of my rope at 3am in the morning and the baby won’t go to sleep. It’s only fair.
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