Every now and then there is something in the air. Naomi vlogged it and Eden blogged it. And now, I in my own blathering way will say something about it.
It never ceases to amaze me just how much time it takes to keep a house in order with kids. I read an excerpt from one of those newspapers – you know the bit where cranky people write in and rant? I always think those people should just get a blog, already. But anyway, it was a person without children wondering how stay at home mothers could struggle to get everything done because childfree people go to work and do the dishes, washing, keep the house clean etc. Dubious argument I think because that time you are at work, is time you are not home making a mess. If I’ve cleaned the house the easiest way to keep it clean is to go out for the day.
It turns out it takes a lot of work. And although I like to have a relaxed attitude to housework and appearance. I don’t want to be one of those creepy people lining up hand towels like in Sleeping with the Enemy. But still, I like the house to look a certain way. I like to have things in their place. I like to feel on top of the vicious washing cycle.
I also like to have quality time playing with the kids. Not just how long do I have to play this game before I can go back to cleaning the house / writing a blog / wasting time on twitter. But actual time. Focused time.
And then I have a blog and there’s facebook and twitter and google plus and then there’s all the freelance work as well. And suddenly, I’m not doing anything well and I’m overwhelmed.
I wrote out a whole plan this morning about what I should be doing. The cruel universe caused me to lose that file when the computer ran out of battery power. I’m going to choose not to take that as a sign. But basically, that plan showed me how I don’t really have that much time, even with Riley in preschool. My days are pretty full with the work of a stay at home mother. And housework is a big part of that. I want to create a warm family environment, and that starts with housework.
Tonight I deleted 50% of the blogs I follow in my reader because it was overwhelming and I wasn’t reading anything because there was just too much. And I might blog a little bit less and be slightly less of a social media addict.
Because my life isn’t about being vaguely witty and amusingly ironic.Ok, it is a little bit. But more than anything, my role as a stay at home mother has to be the most important thing. I need to feel like I’m doing it well. Doing it well means I need my time, I need time out, but I also need to look after my nest.